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Hecate Luna
 Oct 15, 07 - 4:49 PM |
Aristasian Polyamory?
I have been reading Aristasian site for a week now, amazed and fasinated! I really want to say hi to you all and I also want to ask a question. It's a bit controversial maybe, but you say you don't mind that, so here goes. I read that Aristasians have passionate friendships with more than one person. Does this mean that Aristasians are what we call polyamorous? What does Aristasia think about Polyamory? |
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Lady Aquila
Oct 16th, 2007 - 1:11 AM |
Polyamity
Honoured Miss Selena, I think the term we are looking for (if I may be permitted to coin it) is polyamity. Amity rather than "sex" is the mainspring of Aristasian life. Amity is the convivial love of maidens. Often it is very passionate. Sometimes it takes the form of hera-worship or of extreme protectiveness. One can share terribly intimate relationships of amity or mayamity ("great amity") with more than one girl, either as part of a group or severally, but this does not imply any desire for "consummation". Often it is more passionate than that and "consummation" would be merely a false trail and a banalisation of something much subtler and more powerful. As I live longer in (or on the fringes of) Telluria, I realise that many things are not as they first seemed. I used to believe that the Tellurian craving for "sex" was caused by sexual desire, Now I realise that in many cases it is caused more by loneliness and the desire for amity. I have begun to understand that, for many West-Tellurians, whether one is engaged in carnality with a person is the only criterion for whether a bond exists: the only mark that another is "one's own people". Or rather "one's own person", for in the world of serial monogamy, such a bond can only properly be formed with one person at a time. It is impoverishing, and I can well see the desire for polyamory. Unfortunately this only spreads the problem of a false criterion. What is needed is what Aristasia has: polyamity. Naturally I am not criticising the idea of marriage. I am only saying that it is only one bond, and in a healthy society, not the only one. The serial-monogamist term "significant other" always sounds terribly sad and plaintive to me. All other "others" must clearly be relatively insignificant; and because there is no strong "us", no real "in-group", all others are other. This is the sad state of an atomised society. Aristasia is much more group-oriented, and within the natural group, passionate bonds of various kinds may be formed. It is not polyamory, it is polyamity. |
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