A Wonderful story; with a good lesson for life.
Remember when we were young the old folks use to tell us count ten before you react.
Tony, Thought I would just mention something about doing good which might be relevant to the different acts of goodness mention in you post.
The Islamic teaches on goodness is that there are three grads of Goodness.

First: doing good to receive good. The same as; do to others as you would have them do to you. This is the lowest grade of goodness.
Second: that is to take the initiative in doing good out of pure benevolence. This is the middle grade where sometimes there is a flaw in ones benevolence, which cause him to deemed the person who he helped as ungrateful because that person turn against him. That is, "O those who do good to others–---good that
should be based on sincerity–----do not render it vain by
reminding them what favours you have done them or
by inflicting injury on them.

And third: and highest grade of doing good, is graciousness as
between kindred. God Almighty directs that in this
grade there should be no idea of benevolence or any
desire for gratitude, but good should be done out of
such eager sympathy as, for instance, a mother does
good to her child. This high grade of doing
good cannot be exceeded.